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June 12, 2013

TV series looks at local woman's adoption journey

GOSHEN — Think giving up a child for adoption would be tough? What about doing it in front of millions of TV viewers?

Tory Bailey, a 23-year-old mother from Goshen, will find out exactly what that feels like today with the premiere of “I’m Having Their Baby” Season 2 on the Oxygen channel.

“I’m Having Their Baby” provides an intimate and emotional look at adoption by telling the too-often untold story through the eyes of the birth mother. The hour-long series documents a range of poignant, personal stories of women struggling with an unplanned pregnancy and ultimately deciding whether or not to place their baby in the hands of another family.

With Season 2, the show seeks to delve deeper into the lives of birth mothers entering the adoption process, their family and friends affected by their decision, and in some cases the potential adoptive couples.

The premier episode, set to air at 10 p.m. ET/PT today on Oxygen, features Bailey, a mental health technician currently living in Goshen with her three-year old son Bentley. The show seeks to explore Bailey’s fears that she cannot properly support another child on her own and worries about the stability of her relationship with Mike, her boyfriend of two years.

“I actually heard about the show by talking to the couple that were first going to adopt,” Bailey said during a phone interview Monday afternoon. “It kind of started from there, and then I signed up on the Internet, and I was contacted in a couple days. It didn’t take long.”

While admitting that the subject of adoption is sensitive under any circumstance, Bailey said she decided to go on the show primarily to let others know that there are options when it comes to unwanted pregnancies.

“When I first found out that I was pregnant, I wasn’t really sure what I was going to do,” Bailey said. “Abortion really weighed heavily on my heart, and it was something I was really considering. But after I researched it, I couldn’t go through with it, so I knew that adoption was the next best thing. So I just decided to do the show because of my pro life feelings, and to show that the adoption process was much easier than going through an abortion.”

A completely new experience for her, Bailey said she received significant support from her family and friends in deciding to do the show, though she admits there was plenty of tension and stress along the way.

“They’ve been really supportive through everything,” Bailey said. “They weren’t really supportive through my pregnancy, but after everything was over and done, our relationships have really grown stronger and everything worked out.”

Now that filming has completed and the show is ready to air, Bailey said she has no regrets about doing the project, adding that while she still feels she is the same person, she has definitely learned a lot from the experience.

“I definitely learned that you definitely need to wait until you’re married to have kids,” Bailey said. “I’m not married, and it just makes the process so much easier. And I guess I also learned that you should try to get a lot of the stuff you want to do out of the way before you get pregnant, because it really does change everything.”

Bailey said she is a bit conflicted on watching the show when thinking back on the emotional roller coaster ride that was the show’s filming.

“I have kind of mixed feelings, because I’m going to have to relive a very stressful part of my life,” Bailey said. “So it will be kind of hard to watch it. But in the end, I guess I’m ready to see it.”

 

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