THAT IS INSPIRING. That’s what I want to do.
And what is it she did then, that instructor? I’ve boiled it down to this:
1. The goals were clear and concise. This is the move, and this is how it’s done. So there was an objective measurement of success. Very important, I think.
2. She broke it down in parts. I mean there are shoulders, hips, hands, feet, a zillion things that affect any move. She went through them one at a time and showed me what to do. You eat the proverbial elephant one bite at a time, right?
3. She kept at it with me. Each time I’d do the move wrong, she’d help me reset and do it again. Her patience was, well, admirable.
4. She never showed disdain. Speaks for itself.
5. She didn’t coddle me, but she assured me many people take a long time to learn the nuances of the move she was showing me. Reminding me I’m not alone.
6. She didn’t coddle me. Already said, I know, but so important. I’m glad she didn’t feel sorry for me or seem to care — if she noticed — that I was frustrated. She stayed goal-oriented and didn’t get moved by emotion. I like that in a person.
7. She told me, “I know you can do it.” I’ve said this 1,000 times to women in labor. They don’t believe they can, but I know they can. Then they do, and sometimes I even say, “Told you so,” kind of like she did.
8. Lastly, she took authentic delight in my success and celebrated the small victory with me. Every human likes to feel like he or she is pleasing to someone.
And that’s the bottom line, isn’t it? We all want to hear “Well done.” So let’s get to it.
Goshen News columnist Stephanie Price is a wife, mother, teacher, childbirth educator, doula, midwife’s assistant and student nurse pursuing a minor in complementary health from Elkhart. Contact her a¬¬t email@example.com, 269-641-7249 or on Facebook at the page “Whole Family Column by Steph Price.”