• When around others, rest in awkward silence rather than break it. Are you one of those people who always fills the awkward silence? I can be one of those people for sure. It was mostly in childbirth work I learned I didn’t always have to top off the quiet with some wise or witty comment. It is therapeutic, I’ve learned, to let things be. In conversations — especially if you’re slightly socially challenged like some of us — it can be torturous to stay quiet. Do it anyway. You might be surprised what happens. For one, someone else might have something pressing to say. Or you might discover the secret beauty of saying nothing.
• Once you’re getting better at the quiet thing, try going for longer periods of time without saying much. You can read books and blogs written by people who have gone on “meditation vacations” and have spoken, essentially, not at all for great lengths of time. Their minds are blown — in a good way — and they come away recharged to focus on living rather than being noisy.
Note that “quiet time” often implies meditation or prayer of some kind. I Googled several phrases, but “how to have a quiet time” drew decidedly religious results. If you don’t already, you certainly can progress to prayer and meditation. I won’t try to tell you how to do that.
I’m off now for my own quiet time as the sun comes up. Then I’ll start talking.
Goshen News columnist Stephanie Price is a wife, mother, teacher, childbirth educator, midwife’s assistant and nursing student from Elkhart. Contact her at email@example.com, 269-641-7249 or on Facebook at the page “Whole Family Column by Steph Price.”